Ok, so what's all of this going to run me?
Most guys I know have the impression that the ring is the only part of the wedding that they will have to pay for. And while that would be awesome, it's just not the case anymore. In this day and age lots of couples are paying for their own wedding, rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, Welcome to the 21st century. But let's talk about tradition first; here is what the groom (and/or the groom's family) is responsible for:
Traditionally speaking...
The engagement ring and wedding band are your responsibility. Though your bride may want to be an active part of the choosing the ring process (trust me she will) you will be picking up the bill!
The Bride's gift. Sorry the engagement ring nor the wedding band does not count here Dude.
The Groomsmen gifts. This is the part that you get to have fun and go all out if you wish! But try to pick something that you would love to receive; chances are good that if you like it, so will they.
Custom also states that a portion of the flower's cost falls to you as well. You are to pay for your bride's bouquet, the boutonnieres, and the corsages for both sides of the family.
The Honeymoon. Although I have seen this given as a gift to the bride and groom from either parent (I'll keep my fingers crossed) you should be prepared to plan and pay for the big After Party yourself!
The Bachelor Party. No explanation needed, right??!! Your best man and groomsmen should also play a big part in planning and paying for this shindig, if he does then the honor falls to you, if he does not you should be prepared to pick up some if not all of the tab.
Transportation. If your bride and you decide to make a grand exit in a white vintage Rolls Royce instead of your pick-up truck then you should take care of the cost. Also make sure you budget for transporting your groomsmen to the wedding because the honor of paying is all yours.
The Marriage license. This varies in price from state to state so be sure to check the guidelines for the state you are getting married in! (Also check the amount of time this takes to process - you will need this before the actual ceremony).
The Officiant Fee. Often times there is no charge for the officiant. But a donation is usually requested whatever the case may be this falls on your plate.
Rehearsal dinner. Technically this too is your responsibility. Luckily for you your mom, grandma and sisters even will be dying to plan this anyway so don't sweat! And if you are getting involved in the paying and planning of this affair remember that it can be as elaborate or as casual as you both decide.
In short (well not exactly) this is traditionally how things are done. I know that this is a lot to take in, but I want you to be prepared. The point here is that you don't get blindsided by something that you weren't prepared for. By knowing what tradition dictates you can put together a financial game plan for yourself (feel free to include your bride here too). Although these are a set of conventional groom's responsibilities you and your bride can dictate exactly who pays for what - it's up to you!
